My heart is aching

How do you comfort a boy who has lost his mother?

I am so lost a sea as to what to say or do for this poor young man.  He is hurting more than anyone ever should have to.  Tonight I sat in my favorite chair with my daughter in my lap and watched a movie.  She threw a little fit once and I didn't even get frustrated with her.  I can't.  She has her mom today.  She has her dad today.  Her family is complete.

So again I ask, what do you say to a boy whose mother was taken from him far too soon?  Not only that, but was taken violently by his father.  He posted today about someone saying something bad about his mom.  His anger showed through every word,  His post said "All I want is to hear my mom yell at me for something."  Tears filled my eyes as I read this.

Somewhere in my heart is the right thing to say or do, but I can find it.  My hear breaks every time I try to say anything.

He will never get to tell her he found the woman he wants to marry, or smile at her when he graduates from high school.  He won't get to call her when he is in college because he misses her.  He won't get to make her cry when her hands his first born child to her.  How do you make this boy feel better?  How do you explain to him the world is not a horrible place and that there is still hope?

I know God.  I know that life eternal waits.  Does he?  Can I make him understand it is not all hopeless?  Can I ask him to forgive his father so he doesn't hold hate in his heart his whole life?  Can I make him see he will need to forgive him someday?  What about his little sister.  She is too little to understand now, but who will explain it later to her?  Can I make this young man understand that he will probably be the one she looks to for answers when she figures out her mommy is not coming home and neither is her daddy?  Can I make him understand he needs to keep the anger and hatred he feels away from her?  Will he see that she needs to live her life without that burden on her heart?  And if I make him understand it for his sister, will he understand he need to keep that blackness from his heart too?

Lord I pray for guidance today as I have never prayed before.  Help me to see the right way to help this beautiful child you created.  Help me to lift him up when he needs it.  Help his grandparents to see what he needs now.  Help them to heal from this tragedy.  Help this precious children to let go of the hate and anger and find forgiveness one day.  Help them discover You and the joy of eternity.